"When you have a relationship with yourself, you have split yourself into two: I and myself, subject and object. In the state of enlightment, you are yourself. You and yourself merge into one. You do not judge yourself, you don not feel sorry for yourself, you are not proud of yourself, you do not love yourself, you do not hate yourself, and so on. There is no self that you need to protect, defend, or feed anymore. When you are enlightened, there is one relationship that you no longer have: the relationship with yourself. Once you have given that up, all your other relationships will be love relationships"
from Afshin's comment for mazyar :D